The Three ‘S’ Formula to be Happy.

Have you ever had a feeling of Deja vu upon hearing the word happiness? Does it feel like happiness was a word very very dear to you but now, you barely know it?

Let me tell you a story. We all came into this world with a happiness box built inside our bellies. It used to explode whenever our heart was full of joy and mind at ease. It automatically ejected the happiness spray making us realize that there were things of joy and beauty in this world. The things that weren’t huge, but tiny, yet provided us with a sense of completeness and tranquillity. As the ancient clock on my wall kept ticking and hourglass on my study table kept shedding grains of time, we grew up and so did our happiness box which then required bigger things to satisfy its hunger, higher expectations to feed on and artificial fantasies to quench its thirst.

What happened next was predictable enough. The cousins whose mere appearance made you feel overwhelmed with joy were now judged on either they brought a gift on your birthday or not, the friends whom you wrote infinite letters just to come and stay for ages at your home, are now inquired by you over the bills for the food that you ordered just to make sure you don’t have to spend all your money on such a wonderful get-together, which of course isn’t so wonderful anymore. Moon eclipsing the sun is a phenomenon we all are familiar with. Moon here is the embodiment of those fake fantasies and exceptional expectations that eclipse the warmth of true relationships, light of love and honesty of emotions.

Let’s make one thing very clear in our minds. Humans tend to dream high and yearn for all that glitters but it is not guaranteed that all the dreams dreamt in this world come true and that all that glitters is actually gold. I mean it could be, but not necessarily. 

“It is good to love many things, for therein lies the true strength, and whosoever loves much performs much, and can accomplish much, and what is done in love is well done.”
― Vincent Van Gogh

Happiness is not just a feeling, it is a  dimension, a driving force that makes us do big things that might seem impossible at first. While dreaming big, we usually forget that it is us who can make those dreams come true, but for that, first, we have to find happiness in whatever we are doing. According to the research, people tend to perform better in the jobs that they love, because then they do everything for the sake of love, and anything that is done in love, is mostly done at the peak of one’s happiness, from the bottom of one’s heart. 

For keeping your happiness box in its right state, I believe that three ‘S’s are very important to consider in life. Strive, Struggle, and Search!

Strive for the things that you love because such things will always bring happiness in your life. It may sound a bit tiring, and maybe you have to take stands against the conventions, maybe all odds would be against you while striving for the things that you love but trust me at the end, they would be worth it and the days to come will be spent in peace and satisfaction once you achieve your target. Struggle is a very important component of the three ‘S’. You have to fight where there is a need, for your rights, fight for your dreams and the things you love. You might have to go against the people that you love the most, you might have to eliminate and give up on some things or some people in your life, but at the end, when you would look back at the sacrifices you gave to get what made you happier, you won’t regret this selfishness at all. Lastly and most importantly, as long as we are living, we have to keep looking, keep searching for our inner peace, for every opportunity that could make us happier, and our tomorrow better than the yesterday, because at the end,

“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on  the light.”

―Albus Dumbledore

You know what the most beautiful art is? To look into someone’s eyes as they are talking about the things that they love because those are the things that make them the happiest. We are who we are today because of all the good things that have ever happened to us. It is quite natural that we always feel a void inside of us and crave for more, but we shall know that happiness is not found, it is created, and we have to find little things of joy to create the happiness that we desire. We have to be that source of light, that source of happiness that we demand in our life. In the darkest times, we all tend to find the light, we all need a ray of hope and the warm sunshine of happiness. However, if you couldn’t find the light, then it is right inside you, you are the source of that light you are finding everywhere else. I can’t emphasize enough on this one, but do what you love, and love what you do because this is the surefire way to mark every day at your calendars as the happiest.